Friday, March 9, 2012

Needles and Pushers

I have  been addicted to needles and pushers for about  60 years now.

 Before the pushers there were just the needle. I guess I could be called and addict.


When I was 4 or 5 my mother introduced me to needles. They were long and British style. made of bone and fitted under my chubby arms and I would knit little squares.

Then I would knit sweaters for my dolls with my needles.
 I soon learned that I had to start the sleeves first, or my lazy mind would take over and I would knit a lit of vest. Disciple is what I needed.

By the time I was in Grade 6, I was knitting my own sweater. And I   still starting with the sleeves.
 I was delighted when a new fashion came in that called for a thick wooden needle in one hand, and a ordinary size needle in the other, producing a lacy sort of cardigan and sweater.

About the same time I discovered the sewing needle. I loved these needles. You could see results far more quickly by sewing two pieces of cloth together.

After a few years of plying my needle by hand, we acquired Singer treadle machine.

What joy! What progress!

I could make a skirt in a couple of hours with a newspaper and pencil and some cloth.
The newspaper and pencil was to make my pattern.

 We couldn't afford bought patterns so it was a home made job. And to tell the truth, they were pretty darn good.
Sometimes, I would lay on the floor and Mom would trace around me. That was the beginning of a dress or blouse.
Mom was the same way.
 If we saw something in a store we liked, she would measure it with her hand and fingers, much like a horseman measures a horse, and in 2 days, it was complete.

The other things that I learned were  patience and perseverance. If anyone has owned a treadle machine and those bullet shaped bobbins and the tension control will believe in fairies.
 Bad ones that change the tension and time they were feeling frisky, or if things were progressing too well.

I progressed through Home Economics and found the joys of both patterns and electric sewing machine. A small battle with my teacher when I picked a dress and small cape, and she wanted to start me on an apron. I won and got an A+.

My mom and I started the Cowichan Valley Basting belles. A sewing 4-H club. It was great.

The first year, The Archie Stevenson trophy for the  Seamstress of the Year was a boy. Richard Meyer.

After the death of my daughter, Megan,  Mrs Joan Meyer and her daughter took over the club. It has acquitted itself well in competitions all over BC with a solid reputation for excellence.

I was still knitting by hand. Often using the string pattern method in lieu of patterns. This is where you take a piece of string, put a knot where the length would be. Another double knot around the chest, and further 3 or 4 knots for the sleeve length and cuff size.

Then  I learned I was going to be a grandmother.

I bought my first punch card Knitting machine, complete with all the accessories like hooks, and needles, needle pushers, books and punch cards.

The same time I bought my Knitting machine from Joyce's Knits in Ladysmith, She lived across the road. She purchased a computer at the same time and I am considered a bit of a geek, so we ended up with a pathway worn between the houses and with a great deal of knowledge between us.

I upgraded to a Brother 970, a Brother 270, a garter carriage and a whole lot of  other toys.

I knitted a 3 piece suit for my son's wedding as well as a few layettes. A number of sweaters for myself and the rest of the family.

I am now spinning with machine knitting in mind.
I haven't knitted anything hand spun yet, but soon.....
3 Piece Suit . Designed and knitted by me.
So that is how my life  became a  journey of pushers and needles.......
 I guess someday, I will have an intervention, but til then, I will just keep pushing the needles.


Hem detail
 

Friday, March 2, 2012

A New Overhauled You.


Can you see how moving ahead in your evolvement of the you that is hidden in you is a series of  interlaced modules, get the finances in order. Make more time for growth and pleasure by uncluttering your life with dead wood relationships.

Let’s look at the next of part of butterfly emerging from the cocoon.

 As a child we are taught to take second place. When we had company, the rule was FHB. (family hold back) to make sure enough food was there to go around and the basic good manner that guests are served first.

We are asked to be quiet till invited to say our piece then allow the adults to toss  the conversation ball.

Often we wore hand me downs.  We always stood for adults. Basic manners were strictly adhered to. But as we proceeded to Adulthood, we took those messages with us.

As wives and mother, we made daily tiny sacrifices. The extra peach half from the can would go in dads bowl. If there was a cash crunch, kids in school would get new shoes to go back to school. Mom would make do.

At Christmas and birthdays, presents of much wanted items would be purchased some way for our loved ones, and we would smile at the macaroni, stuck on a jam jar and say “ Oh that is wonderful darling, I love it.” That was true. It was gift of time spent with us in mind. But the basic message is we don’t deserve to have the lion’s share of the disposable income.

Now the fledglings are out of the nest, and our clothes are “good enough”. Our hair looks nice as it did when  we were married wearing   a similar style.
We have still a bit of blush we bought 4 years ago to wear with our medium shade of base.
And you have probably figured the message out that we have become shabby and stale and out of date.

You can go to your stylist and say" a hair cut please", and she will dutifully give you the same jaded took you have worn for years.

My wake up was a gift certificate to an unknown Spa, Stylist Shop
.
I went in at my usual perm time and ask for a perm with a trim after.
The stylist ran experienced fingers through my hair and said,"You don’t need a perm. You need a good hair cut”

Well that was nearly four years ago and I have not had a perm since. The stylists talented, experienced fingers, saw me in a new way and cut years off my face. We added a few highlights that brought the sun to my drab mousy hair.

We looked at make up with the mineral base and colours that matched my older skin, and made it look younger, fresher and clean.

I had lost a lot of weight and my eyes were sunken in my face, making bruised sockets in my face.
She convinced me to go to a free consultation with a esthetics specialist.

The result was a bit of filler in the baggy  hollows under my eyes and BANG another 5 years evaporated from my face.

Then I attacked my closet as I described in Miss Minimalist. I uncluttered my wardrobe, added a few well chosen pieces following her guidelines.

Then  I just put my hand in the closet, a Voila, a matching outfit that makes me feel well dressed and smart and it all matches. My closet is neater, less clutter, and stylish.

What did all this transformation cost me? Counting the stylist consultations, New hair style,  new hair and face product, a little filler to make my face look  less stressed and tired, new additions to my wardrobe.
It was all under $700. Not bad investment for the rest of my life.

Now what is stopping you?

You have a ton of excuses. It is greedy, I don’t deserve it, people will laugh at you or tease you. HOGWASH!!

After all the sacrifices throughout your life, you have earned it.

You will become a happier, more confident and more stylist person.

Life coaches usually charge $200 for initial consultation, and a choice of three areas to explore first. Each session will be a professional hour, with email and phone support and adventures, or home work to strengthen your gifts.

As you explore who you are, you may want to add more modules to your portfolio. These should be $25 with the same initial time and follow up.

Now it is time to look at some of the other areas I mention. I will let you explore those areas on your own or with a life coach. “Here’s looking at you.”

Thursday, March 1, 2012

Time and Dead Wood


Change takes time. And in our busy lives, we seem to find that to be the most a scarce commodity.

Keep a log for a week and keep track of how you spend your time.
It is as important as doing a budget and as difficult to tailor and keep.

Keep a track of the actual productive hours spent, at work, either out of the home or in it.

How much time do we feel we are producing up to your potential?
I know if I get cracking, I can have my home presentable In about an hour, including a load of laundry and putting a loaf of bread in my bread machine.

On my monthly deep cleaning days stretch that time to 3 hours.
There are many ways of budgeting your time to make the less appealing jobs more enjoyable.

 The reward is always a success. Give you self an award for completing a task you have been avoiding.
I have a plan printed out on my fridge (the community message board) that gives a general outline of what needs to be done and when.

I base mine around my home and business. If you need help generating your plan, you may need a bit of help from a life coach.

Habits that are good can be developed.  I get out of bed, throw my covers open, let my dog out, do my hygiene, dress and make my bed. (Unless it is sheet changing day)

Only then do I go into the living room. The animals are the first concern for me, I feel the bird, the fish in the pond outside and my little dog gets another run in the yard, then change her water and feed her.


Now we can have coffee, breakfast and then unload the dishwasher.

Vacuum, dust, sweep kitchen and front porch and my house is presentable. Total time? Less than one hour.

I look at my computer answer my emails, and if I am rewarding myself, I post on face book, update my log and maybe play a couple of games of scrabble. Time ha ha ha  well another hour, se we looking 10:30 or so in the eye.
I take supper meat out, and I plan what I have to do for a meal.

If I have a meeting, I can be out of the house by 10, or 11, depending on the appointment, just by cutting out the computer other than E-MAIL. ( work related) for this I have 2 email addresses.

Now lets talk about the big DECLUTTER than we spend hours of fruitless time. That of deadwood relationships.

I have friends, I love my friends and am willing to invest as much time as needed to support them and share their joys, achievement, and sadness.

But I had a group of people who, because I tend to be empathetic would use me as a sounding board.

One has an addicted abusive son of1 8 who steals, and beats her. The old adage once shame on him, the second, shame on you. If you not prepared to either, call the police, evict him from the house, or get him in reasonable rehab. There is nothing I can do for you except nod my head and say “Oh that is too bad. I am so sorry.” I am sorry.Yes  I am sorry you will not, and I mean will not deal with it. Cannot is not in my work vocabulary.

 How many hours a week do you spend listen to different versions of the same sob story? Sorry folks, but this is a dead wood relationship.

They feel unburdened for a very brief time, and you feel used. It colours the rest of your day or week. You cannot help them. They must help themselves.

Invest one more session in outlining their options. Then next time they call advise them that you have too many neat projects on right now and have not time to listed, again advise them of the name of a professional, and bid them a pleasant day and hang up.

Only you know the dead wood you are dealing with. A going nowhere partner, an adult child who will not take control of their own life but won’t let you help, just wants to whine, groups or organizations too can rob you of life joy or time. If you do not get something back in a relationship, then it is dead wood.

The other dead wood is the TV. My son likes to watch the news during breakfast, if a program starts after the news, it will suck in my attention and there is one of my precious hours gone from my 24 a day.

It may sound unfeeling and cruel, but in the end, you will have more time for the things you enjoy, and no heavy burden of logs on your back from others misery.

You will find you have more time, a better attitude and you will not meet your partner with those dreaded words " do you know what x did to Y TODAY!!!"  I don't mean do not share, you can share your good bad and ugglies with a friend or relative . But it is your good bad and ugglies or theirs, a 2 way street. You get something out of the relationship.

I have a phone honesty agreements with my friends. The first thing they and I day is " Do you have time to talk?" If I do I simply say " yes". If I am on way to other things I may answer " I can give you five minutes, but I will have more time after supper" This is a contract. We both know how long we can talk. The after supper may be a half hour gab session, but we both are aware of the ground rules, and no one is hurt if I say "Not at the moment." No apology, or explanation is needed.


More later. I have earned a treat. I am going to spin some beautiful fleece I bought at the spin in.

Wednesday, February 29, 2012

Lump Sum Investment


Investment    
1.)    Lump sum money! usually severance pay.

There is a very important responsibility with lump some payments, and they can have drastic tax responsibilities or advantages.

If you receive the money in you hand, it can have devastating consequences.

 It all becomes taxable as primary income. 

That means if you worked during the year and had and income of $40,000 add the lumps sum of say $80,000, and you now have and income of $140,000.

 If you have been making your RRRSP contributions each year, you can only contribute 18% of your previous year’s income. So you can get an RRSP of $7500 for a tax refund of approximately $3000, leaving you with a gigantic $132,5000 to be taxed.

Now in scenario two, you do not get the cheque, but your employer transfers thee $80,000
Into an RRSP in your behalf You get a tax break of $32,000 so you have $80,000 in your RRSP and you add the amount of tax saving,  you have $113,000 in you RRSP. 


If you have sufficient income to buy your allowable RRSP for that year, you could add the other $3000 to it and your invested retirement is now working for you at a huge $116,000 compounding.
And this makes lifestyle changes









So let’s pretend you are 55. So your RRSP at least should bring in 5.5%
$116,000.00
*5.50%
add interest  $6,380.00

$122,380.00
add interest *5.50%
$6,730.90

$129,110.90

So In 3 years you have increased your portfolio by


 $12, 220.90

Life Coaching

Life coaching is not anything other  than giving yourself permission to reach down inside yourself, and find the things that keep you from reaching your full potential.
 So being as Spring is coming, lets deal with some of the areas that we can Spring  Clean in your life.

A session helps a person decide what three units or modules they want to to deal with first.

The usual areas as followed, but many more areas can be add.

 Short course like a life check up is especially handy every 3 to 5 years. This keeps you current and refreshes your outlook on life.

If you are entering the work force or a new job, coaching can help you in many ways, Even how to conduct an interview for your new job. Yes you do have to interview a prospect employer. Are they where you want to work or are you just settling.


Life Coaching

This is a roadmap of your life and parts we want to visit and explore. 
We hope to develop skills that you can use to enhance the journey and give you tools to take control and give you control over your own path.
We are not re-inventing you. We are developing your own unique personality

Areas of Appreciation

Investmens and financial planning    

1.)    Lump sum money!
2.)    RRSP many.
3.)    Savings
4.)    School costs children
5.)    Spending
6.)    Debt reduction.

Personal Growth.

1.)    Define dreams and goals. Are they different?
2.)    Prepare yourself for change.
3.)    Learn to communicate.
4.)    Reading.
5.)    New Interest.
6.)     Discussion group.
7.)     What is deadwood in your life

                   Getting Rid of the Deadwood

1.) De clutter your relationships
2.) De clutter your home (take it easy. We can’t do it all in a day)
              3.)  De clutter your car
    4.) De Clutter your computer

Be Selfish.
1.)     Cannot move ahead dragging the past with you.
2.)    Developing tools to lay the past to rest.
3.)    Time management
  4.)   Make time for your family
  5.)   Make time for your significant other
              6.)  Make time for yourself 
  
                   Paper work Critical 

1.) Draw up debt list

             2.) Consolidate debt where advantageous.
a.)    Lower interest rates on credit cards. And eliminate all but one with lower interest.
b.)    The limit on that one.
c.)     Use for emergency use only.

3.) How to pay down debt
4.) Draw up a will
5.) Draw up a living will

            Personal Image

1.)    Update your image to reflect what you want out of life.

2.)    Update make up or hair style

3.)    What do you not like about yourself?

4.)    What are you prepared to do about it?

5.)    Clothes make a man or a woman.

6.)    Lets look at wardrobe or what not to wear

7.)    What a bit of cosmetic enhancement? Almost instant age defeating changes that give a youth and confidence lift.

                    Mental Gymnastics

It has been said that if you know 5 authors 5 artist, 5 statesmen and 5 current events, you can hold a conversation with anyone.
1.)     Reading
2.)    Writing
3.)    Art Appreciation
4.)    Performing Arts
5.)    Entertainment
6.)    Current Affairs
7.)    Learning to speak  introductions, ice breakers, and proper English
8.)    Fashion in the home

  
Practical Work with others

1.)    Entertain planning menu and picking out wine invite  2 other couples or group of singles
2.)    Start or join a discussion group or public speaking group
3.)    Plan a tour i.e. Wine, Art, Museums
4.)    Write a small biography
5.)    Write a small fiction
6.)    Read 4 books (not pocket novels. unless they are also in hardcover). Let’s look at the library.
7.)    Interview a person and find out where they are from, what they do for employment, what they hope to achieve. But don’t make them feel interviewed. 
8.)    Develop the are of really listening


Blockages

1.)    Fear of failure.
2.)    Who are you doing it for?
3.)    What are you expectations
4.)    Fear of looking foolish.
5.)    Fear of losing what is familiar.
6.)    Discouragement of friends.
7.)    You can do it yourself (so Why haven’t you?)
8.)    Are you good enough?
9.)    Is this vain?



 Over the next couple of weeks, we will explore some of these areas and talk about tool you can use to enhance your self and your attitude and demeanor.



Wednesday, February 22, 2012

A face Lift and Other Things

Well Big Brother Google does it again. A FACE LIFT! It has redesigned the  blogger page from being really user friendly to being OMG.  I hope they get enough feed back to put it back


A few things this week. One of my beautiful Granddaughters celebrated her 11th birthday.
Here she is with her Mom. Dad, and baby sister on Castle hill on a visit to Newfoundland.
She will soon become one of those hormone riddle creatures we lovingly call a **teen**.

I am doing some knitting this week.
The neat yarn bowl was a gift from Monike Haweks-Frost
I have a pair if socks on the go . I do the toe up version on one needle. I use Judy's magic cast on and end up with Estonia cast off. both are on you tube.
I love the self striping sock wool. It makes such interesting patterns.

My Iceland  sweater to be.
I have started a sweater for myself. I an using Lodi Iceland wool.




John Walls wearing the Jacob Wool Sweater I spun and knitted.
We are having a spin in this Saturday, and I was going to take the sweater to "show and tell" however as it will not be done, I will have to borrow the sweater back that I knitted for John.
Weaving Bull Kelp



On a Valentines lunch to Point No Point I found some interesting weaving. This is bull Kelp. there is plenty of it on the West coast of Vancouver Island.










Good Bye Bill Morgan VE7MOG.

One a sadder note, we lost a good friend today and a  fellow HAM Bill Morgan.VE7MOG

Bill married his life time love after re-meeting her years after each had been married and were single again.
They were married December 30,2011, in the Chapel at Saanich Historical Artifacts Society and had six weeks together before Pancreatic Cancer claimed him.
Walk slowly Bill, we will all catch up one day. You will be missed in the HAM community and at Saanich Historical Artifacts Society.
— at Victoria BC

Wednesday, February 15, 2012

February to May $$$$$$ keep your money while you earned it $$$$

February 14 is not just Valentines day. It is the first day Canada Customs and Revenue Agency will allow you to start to file your income tax.

We can start them, but their filing system does not run until the 14th.

I do income tax preparations for a living, well part time employment of three months.

I see the programs offered on line and in the store for only 30 to 50 dollars.And it makes me so very sad. People are throwing away money away that should stay in their pockets. I can't help but think that this is a windfall for the government.

There are so many things you can miss.


The usual ones like the kids day care, bus passes and daycare, but do you know that summer camps, summer programs are also a tax deduction.

Then there is medical travel. If you have to travel 40 km away for medical care that is not available in your area, you can claim medical travel.   so it the road trip was 80 Km @.52 that would be $41 in medical expenses. Add on $8 for parking, and $10 for a meal. We have a medical expense of $59 for the one visit. Add on several trips as these things happen to be and we may be looking at $180. Add on the part you paid for glasses, dental care, your out of pocket prescriptions,
If you are on a plan that pays 80% of your medical, add up what was submitted and what you were given. With most medical insurance companies, they pay 80% of the National average. This can work out to as little as 49%. The rest came from your pocket and is a deduction. All the medical should be claimed for the family by the lowest earner. This is because the total  has 3% deducted from it. hence 3% of the lower earner is less that 3% of the higher earner.

The list is so long on what is allowable medical expense,. I will just give you the CCRA link to medical allowable expenses.
http://www.cra-arc.gc.ca/tx/ndvdls/tpcs/ncm-tx/rtrn/cmpltng/ddctns/lns300-350/330/llwbl-eng.html
Then we can add training to look after a relative in home. If your child had ADD, training for the care is a write off as is your First Aid course.
Which brings me to another point that is not really tax related. If you have to go to Vancouver for medical treatment, you ask your Dr for a TAP form. This does not depend on how much money you have, but that treatment is not available on the Island. This will allow free passage for car and patient. If the patient cannot drive themselves, then the driver is free also for the round trip. 

I has a chap who had been coming for about 5 years and I prepared their taxes. The year he brought his wife, I discovered she was sight impaired. I gave a T2201 and they received  $16,000 in deserved rebate.

I usually get 1 or 2 of these a year.


T2201 covers a deduction for anyone who is impaired on a severe, prolonged and restrictive in the following areas:

1. Has your impairment in physical or mental functions lasted, or is it 
expected to last, for a continuous period of at least 12 months? Yes or No 
 
If you answered yes, answer Questions 2 to 5 below. 
If you answered no, you are not eligible for the DTC. To claim the disability 
amount, the impairment has to be prolonged (defined on the previous page). 
 
2. Are you blind? Yes or No 
 
3. Do you receive life-sustaining therapy  Yes 
or No 
 
4. Do the effects of your impairment cause you to be markedly restricted 
 in one of the following basic activities of 
daily living, even with the appropriate therapy, medication, and devices? 
 
- speaking 
- hearing 
- walking 
- elimination (bowel or bladder functions) 
- feeding 
- dressing 
- mental functions necessary for everyday life 



If you have a child in post secondary school, they will receive a T2202. This will stat their tuition and number of months in full or part time education. It full time, each month is worth $400 deduction and part time is worth $125 a month, plus:

Eligible tuition fees include:
  • admission fees;
  • charges for the use or library or laboratory facilities;
  • examination fees;
  • application fees (but only if the student later enrolls in the institution);
  • charges for a certificate, diploma, or degree;
  • mandatory computer service fees;
  • academic fees;
  • the cost of any books that are included in the total fees for a correspondence course taken through a post secondary educational institution in Canada; and
  • fees, such as athletic and health services fees, paid to a university, college, or other educational institution in addition to your tuition for post-secondary courses, when such fees are required to be paid by all students. The amount of eligible fees is limited to $250 if the fees do not have to be paid by all students.

If the student does not need the education amount to bring their taxes to 0. It can be transferred to a spouse, common law, or parent and grand parent.
And the student may claim moving expenses each semester if they actual move.
If they get a T4A for bursary, anything over $300 is taxable unless  THEY have a T2202 proving they went on to post education, then up to $5000 is a tax free.
Or it can stay in the students account and be applied against future taxes.
The amounts for moving are a real benefit if you are moving to work.Again there are so many deductions  must first determine if you qualify to deduct moving expenses, either as an individual who is employed or self-employed or as a full-time student.
If you qualify, you can claim reasonable amounts that you paid for moving yourself, your family, and your household effects. Not all members of your household have to travel together or at the same time.

Eligible moving expenses

Transportation and storage costs (such as packing, hauling, moving, in-transit storage, and insurance) for household effects, including items such as boats and trailers.
Travel expenses, including vehicle expenses, meals, and accommodation, to move you and members of your household to your new residence. You can choose to claim vehicle and meal expenses using the detailed or simplified method.
Temporary living expenses for up to a maximum of 15 days for meals and temporary accommodation near the old and the new residence for you and the members of your household. You can choose to claim meal expenses using the detailed or simplifiedmethod. If you choose the simplified method, although you do not have to submit detailed receipts for actual expenses, we may still ask you to provide some documentation to establish the duration of temporary lodging.
Cost of cancelling a lease for your old residence, except any rental payment for the period during which you occupied the residence.
Incidental costs related to your move which includes the following:
  • changing your address on legal documents;
  • replacing driving licences and non-commercial vehicle permits (not including insurance); and
  • utility hook-ups and disconnections.
Cost to maintain your old residence (maximum of $5,000) when it was vacant after you moved, and during a period when reasonable efforts were made to sell the home. It includes the following:
  • interest;
  • property taxes;
  • insurance premiums; and
  • heat and utilities expenses.
NoteThe costs must have been incurred when your old residence was not ordinarily occupied by you or any other person who ordinarily resided with you at the old residence just before the move. You cannot deduct these costs during a period when the old residence was rented.
Cost of selling your old residence, including advertising, notary or legal fees, real estate commission, and mortgage penalty when the mortgage is paid off before maturity.
Cost of purchasing your new residence if you or your spouse or common-law partner sold your old residence as a result of your move.
NoteIt includes legal or notary fees that you paid for the purchase of your new residence, as well as any taxes paid (other than GST/HST or property taxes) for the transfer or registration of title to the new residence.

Then there are accounting fees, safety deposit box fees if you keep stocks and bond, accounting fees if you have stocks or bonds. So you brick shares, or a $100 CSB in your safety deposit box, tax prep so you win all ways.

Now do you really think you can find all little bits and pieces in a $29 program?
Or do you want someone with over 24 years of experience?
This is what you can get from a professional:

Basic tax preparation is priced at $45 and includes:

• T4's
• T5's
• T4(P)
• T(OAP)
• WCB
• T4RSP
• Charitable Donation
• Medical Expenses
• Child care
• GST Application 
• E-filed

For a Spouse living in the same household, the price is $35 and includes the same items as above, however we will evaluate how the couple benefit from the deductions that are allowed to be shared or claimed by one of the couple. This included pension income splitting for Seniors. Both returns are E-filed

For a Child in the same household or at Post Secondary School we do the same basic service plus transfer of education amounts to a parent, bus fare, tuition and tuition intest pay back, education 
refund credit, the fee will be $25

We do rentals and small business at a cost of $15 extra for each rental or business. This applies only if the total are prepared. If accounting or partial accounting is required, we charge $35 an hour.

We also claim appropriate: meal allowances, room and lodging and Northern living allowace


Hope we hear from you
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Thursday, February 9, 2012

Girl Time.. Well Ladies any way

It has been a weekend of mixed Blessings with the weather.
 Sun and warm enough for sweaters, and bleak grey and rain 10 minutes later.

It is just as well we had projects inside to entertain ourselves.

I belong to the Juan De Fuca Art and Craft Guild.

 There is traditional fine arts, carving, models of boats, planes, railway sets, cats and bugs, rocks and stamps, and  all manner of things.

But we are the fibre ones. Sewing, quilting, knitting, weaving spinning, anything that can be create by applying fingers to fibre and fabric.

Each year we take over the  walkway in the Can West Mall, in Langford. The main purpose is to recruit interested new members. We also can showcase our particular crafts and have the opportunity to sell some of the things we have made.
Quilts knitted for charity by the JDF Arts and Craft Guild.

I picked up a really neat carrier for pies or pots for pot luck dinners for $15. Well made and sturdy.

Bibs for both babies and the older folks who may need a little something to keep their dinner off their vests. These go for around $3.
I just have my glasses hanging around my neck and catch the fallout in those.

The ladies do a lot of charity work with: homemade quilts for the nursing homes or for a new baby.

Baby and children's knitting, slippers, Chemo hats and special wipes for the fragile are among the desired items

A number of warm items are donated to local charities that deal with the battered spouses or the homeless also.
 The sense of sharing and giving is outstanding.


They not only give their time and talent, but also often buy the materials.

 They are always open to donations of yarn, fabric, batting, or any other project material. If you would like to donate, email me at palea@telus.net and I will make sure you are put in contact with the right person.

The other asset of these groups, is the mentorship that happens.
With our nomadic communities now, we cannot all learn the crafts from out relatives, so the good ladies will take a novice under their wing and share their skill.

We need more of this type of caring.

Several of us took our spinning wheel and demonstrated to the interested people how to spin and card and knit.

I took some needle felting and happily sold out of dryer balls.
I also took some Tunisian knitting/croquet and demonstrated that.

It was a great time and we manage to stay the whole three days.

Then our Fibre Friends group had our weekly spin day at my house today.

I had turkey broth in the freezer, so did a Winter soup with all root vegetables, and made two homemade loaves of bread. One was Apple and ginger and the other was raisin bread.


We all brought projects and talked and ate, and spun and generally had a great time.

I think it is important for each gendre to have some time with their peers.

Some women have daughters, sister, or other relatives to chat with. But for us that do not,  it is a healthy special way to touch base outside the family circle.

One a year I try and go to a Spin-in. We stay at a hotel for 2 nights and take our wheels and spin. There are anywhere up to 100 spinners, so the groups keep reforming and  opinions, tricks and tips are shared.
Venders bring fleece and yarn and books and bits and pieces we may need.

There is one coming up in March, and a one day Spin-in in a couple of weeks
 at Metchosen.
I will at least take in one and again refresh my creative side.




Thursday, February 2, 2012

My Special Family

It was in 1981 that I answered a call from a concerned relative to come and see her nephews.

She had been unable to contact them and was concerned.

I was a crisis worker at the time and certainly these boys were in crisis.

Their Dad was away working and the boys had been left to** the tender mercies** of the other principal residents in the home.

This was a co parenting home that was supposed to be supportive of the single dad and his three sons.

I found three youngsters 3, 5 and 6, dirty, hungry and frightened.

The **caring adults**. Had been away 2 days and left the boys alone in an old house with the fridge ties up.

Their was a rope off area to their bed, the bathroom and a small sitting area.There was a jug of water available.

I picked up the boys and took them their aunt to talk about the situation. She fed them and I took them home.

When the father returned I refused to give him back his children.

Time and circumstanced passed and I gave the dad visiting privilege. It is a long involved story, enough to say it was not the fathers fault. he was caught in a trap and was as much a victim as the boys. With no other alternatives that he could find, he felt he could not escape.

Human Resources would not help him find reliable help for his little family unless he gave up custody of his kids.

Over time, the boys stayed with me and flourished. They attended my church and each in turn accepted Christ as their savior.

As time passed Jim and I fell in love and eventually married Mar 23 1983.

I have been mom ever since. The middle one tried to explain the relationship once and said, three of us are adopted, but I forget which ones.

Tomorrow will be the oldest will turn 39.

He still lives with me and cares for me, and helps me in a million ways.

The other two are so close to me, that I too forget which are by love and which are blood.

After Jim died, it seems some power knew he couldn't be here,so he gave my my three special sons. That make a total of 5 sons.

I want all of you, my sons, to know I love you. You are the greatest gift a woman can have.
Thank each of you, all five, for your special and unique person that you are.

And the bonus of this is I have gained 3 wonderful daughter. My boys married winners.
And then they produced families and gave me grandchildren to love.

I am proud of all my family and consider myself a very fortunate woman.

love mom